How to break the multi-generational curse.

 Recently a post came through my fb feed that someone raised the question of how can we break the cycle of the multi-generational curse?  They didn’t specify exactly what they meant by the “curse,”  but it occurs to me this could be considered in many ways.

There were various responses, some referred to ancestors, some referred to bloodlines, some referred to genes and DNA. Some referred to canceling soul contracts, and cutting cords. Some referred to various forms of meditation, such as mindfulness and other forms of attempting to ignore the problems.  Over the years of working with the principles involved with this approach, and working with the effects of the subconscious programs that are formed during childhood, I have developed theories about the significance of the multi-generational effect. 

So, to set the stage, let’s revisit the fundamental premise of what influences our experience of life; the first half dozen years of childhood. As a person is born, there is an ongoing process for the first six years or so, of observing what is occurring around them, and trying to figure out what is going on in the world.  There are many, many factors that contribute to the process, but we can generally say, the family environment, plays a major role. The child is observing and attempting to interpret everything they are seeing and hearing, and the various experiences they have. They are observing the behaviors of those around them, and attempting to understand what those around them are saying, and what it all means.

Now, this may seem obvious at first, but there are many factors that are involved, that we tend to take for granted, that influence the perceptions and beliefs that the child forms, and therefore forms the basis of the life that they manifest to experience.  So, all of the various forms of customs, traditions, behaviors and belief systems of the family culture form a hodgepodge of impressions that the child attempts to interpret and absorb into their fundamental perceptions of life, the world, and themselves.  Which, they then tend to re-create for themselves as they grow and manifest their experience of life.  

But there is much more involved. Each cycle of a child going through this process of interpreting and incorporating the vast array of perceptions and beliefs encountered in the family environment, becomes another link in the chain of conditions handed down through many generations. As, each child takes those perceptions they formed in the beginning, and grows up, adding their own version of the experiences they have, and then teach those same perceptions and belief systems to their children, who adopt their own version of the family traditions and cultures, and grow up, and convey that to their children. And so on, and so on.  And, this cycle has been going on for many hundreds of years.

Well, there may be a tendency to say, ”yeah, ok, so what? What’s the big deal?”   If the environment of the family culture is conducive for the child to form healthy perceptions and belief systems, then healthy perceptions, belief systems, and resulting behaviors, will probably be the environment of the family culture that is past down from generation to generation, and things will most likely be ok.  But, on the other hand, if unhealthy or dysfunctional emotions, perceptions, beliefs and behaviors, are the characteristics of the family history, then that will also reflect as the characteristics of the family culture that is passed down from generation to generation. 

There are many factors that can be mixed together to influence the character of the family environment, like socio-economic conditions experienced by previous generations, religious postures, as well as emotional and behavioral patterns that can contribute to an unhealthy, or even dysfunctional family culture.   Let’s take for example a generation of people that lived during the early half of the twentieth century. They experienced a world war, a global economic depression, and another world war.  These were major global level difficulties that had profound impact on much of the population. These events created conditions that had significant impact not only on the lives of those who lived through it, but influenced the perceptions and beliefs that those people conveyed to their children, and families.   

Many people were forced into situations where they had to adopt attitudes toward life that were necessary in order to survive.  Let’s say, as a few examples, there may have been some folks that adopted attitudes such as, life is hard, money doesn’t grow on trees, money is scarce, or hard to come by, there’s not enough to go around, you have to work hard to get by in life. Or perhaps they formed any of countless other attitudes that would be the natural result of living through conditions of war and global economic depression.  Perhaps they formed attitudes about what life is like, or what you have to do to survive. Now, let’s consider those people had children, and taught those ideas about life to those children. And, those children manifest their experience of life based on those attitudes of how life occurs, and that has become the basis of the family culture that is passed down through the generations. Meaning, they manifest the same conditions of hardship that they were told that life is.

Now, let’s build another layer on it.  Let’s suppose another person, perhaps during the same time period and economic conditions, is an orphan at a very early age, and is put into an orphanage, among many other children. Let’s suppose those who were running the orphanage were, shall we say, not exactly nurturing, perhaps even mean. So, this child experienced what was essentially a hostile environment, during the critical development stage of forming their perceptions and belief systems about life, as well as their emotional health. This person then has children later in life, and re-creates the attitudes and emotional handicaps they formed during their own childhood, essentially re-creating the various forms of emotional handicaps and dysfunctional behaviors to pass down through the following generations.   And, furthermore, many of these conditions of family perceptions, belief systems and culture go back many generations, such as the civil war, revolutionary war, or even mid-evil times, the crusades, or the renaissance.  

This has just been a sketchy outline that probably doesn’t convey the significance of what I am trying to describe. But, over many years of working with the causes of unwanted, or even dysfunctional issues, I find that these conditions involving the multi-generational family environment, plays a big part of the dynamics that are involved. In the work of addressing and cleaning up the effects of these dynamics, we can work with the inner child to understand how these factors have played a part in the experience they had, and have influenced the decisions and perceptions they formed, as a child, that are showing up in their present life. And, then, choices can be made to let these dynamics go. When they are released, healing can occur, and the effects of the past can stop affecting the present.  And, this is the goal, to have the past stop affecting the present, thereby, breaking the chain of the multi-generational curse.

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