If you have something in your life that you don’t like,
where does it really come from? What is it’s real cause? And, of course the real question is, what can
be done about it, to get rid of it?
Many years ago when I first started trying to share the
solutions I had found with other people, I talked about “issues,” and how this
method could make issues disappear. Mainly because in those days, that’s what
it was called; “issues.” But, I found
that it didn’t seem like people responded to well to the idea of having issues.
Eventually it occurred to me that maybe
people didn’t like admitting to the idea of having problems. I mean, let’s face it, who wants to admit
they have problems? Other than maybe a
few, like me, that have been beat to a pulp, and fed through the meat grinder
of life, and ready to say, “yeah, I got problems, and I’m ready to do something
about it.”
But what about the rest of the people in the world? Those
that didn’t find themselves confronted by conditions that clearly indicate
there was a serious problem going on? Or, even, how does one recognize that
there are conditions in life that are not beneficial, and make the decision to
do something to make changes happen?
Because, frankly, our society is arranged in such a way that it produces
unhealthy conditions for life, and people are not taught to know what is going
on, much less what to do about it.
For, example, society creates conditions that people may
have a perpetual feeling of being inadequate, and are taught to seek comfort or
approval through acquiring material things. This is considered normal. But I
see a society of people who are struggling to overcome a deep feeling that
something is “not ok” about them, and are trying to make themselves feel better
by some form of materialistic means.
This is the essence of addiction. Whether it is consuming, or a behavior,
or acquiring things, or self-image, or work, or status, or seeking approval, or
acceptance, or any of the other conditions that are considered “normal” in
society, if it’s about striving to reach “being ok”, then it is really about
something much deeper, that is based on a belief of some kind of “not ok.” And, it comes from a false belief of some
kind that was formed during early childhood. And is causing false conditions in
one’s life.
So we are conditioned to accept the conditions of life, and
not notice that there is a deeper level that is driving our experience of life,
that is about “something is not ok.” So, we go through life striving to
achieve, striving to perform, to win, to be accepted, approved, to be loved.
All the while believing it’s not so, believing there’s something wrong that has
to be overcome, to hide, to be ashamed of, that somehow makes us unworthy, or
unloved. But, it is a false idea that was accepted as what is true. It is all
that has been known, and has been manifested as the experience of reality.
So, I am trying to find a way to convey the real essence of
what this approach, and this work, is really about. It’s not just about having some “issues” that
we might be embarrassed to admit. But, it’s about what are you manifesting in
your life to experience?
It’s considered ok to say something like, oh, I’ve got
anxiety, or depression, basically because everybody does. It is the result of
the society we are in. But what matters
is, where is that anxiety or depression coming from? What is really causing it,
and what are you going to do about it? And, beyond that is, what else is going on,
that is driving your life? What else is
coming from deep inside that is influencing your life every day, that you don’t
notice, that you don’t pay attention to? That you just take for granted?
I would invite you to take a closer look at your life, and
look at what is really driving the conditions that show up in your life. What
are the underlying motivations in your life that you don’t pay attention
to? For example, is your life about looking
good to others? Do you have a need to
have the right house, or right clothes, or right car? Are you driven at work by a need for
approval? Is your career driven by the need to succeed, to prove something? To
prove you’re good enough? Or smart enough?
Do you spend time worrying about what people are thinking
about you? Do you find yourself people pleasing? Or agreeing to things because
you have a need to be liked? Do you let people take advantage of you? Are you a
“goody two shoes?” always doing what’s “right?” Are you attached to “the right
way”? or easily upset by people that don’t do things “the right way?”
Do you need to “prove yourself?” Better, stronger, smarter, prettier? Or, do
you find yourself feeling “less than”? Not good enough, not smart enough, not
worthy? Do you find that a lot of your
plans don’t really work out? Do you fear success? Do you fear responsibility?
Have you noticed that sometimes choices that you didn’t realize you made, ended
up being the reasons things didn’t work out? Have you noticed that some choices
you make seem to cause your own problems?
Do you struggle with relationships? Do you get involved with
the wrong people? Do you get in relationships that turn out to be just like
your parents? Or do you attract people that treat you badly? Are you suspicious
of people? Do you have trouble trusting people?
Do you have volatile emotions? Tend to “blow up” at people?
Do you sometimes overreact? Do you attract drama in your life? Do you attract
people in your life that always have drama going on?
Has it seemed like no matter what you do, you just can’t
seem to make things work? Do you feel like life is hard? Do you feel like the
universe is against you? Do you feel like bad stuff happens “to you?” Do you sometimes have a feeling of futility,
like, “what’s the use?” Have you felt
like no matter what you do it just doesn’t seem to work?
Or, do you buy things to make yourself feel better? Or,
maybe eat to make yourself feel better?
Do you base how you feel about yourself, on how you think other people
see you? Do you have negative thoughts? Or do you have thoughts that criticize
or judge yourself? Do you have fear of letting other people see, or know, who
you really are? Do you act the way you
think other people will like you? Are you driven by a fear of not being liked
by people? Do you have a fear that people won’t like you if they find out who
you really are?
Well, this could go on for days. There is really an infinite
variety of ways that the patterns of unwanted conditions can appear, and influence
lives. So, at this point the question
is, do you relate to any of this? Or,
perhaps there is something else that you recognize as something you don’t like
having in your life. Then it’s a matter of what are you going to do about it?
Continue living with it? Or do something to get rid of it?
To go back to what we began this discussion with, of what causes these problems in life? Or, whatever other problems you might have going on. The answer is; unwanted conditions, patterns, or issues, or whatever else we might call it, come from subconscious patterns that form during the first few years of childhood. Those patterns manifest as the conditions that are experienced throughout life. The approach I am offering with this work, provides an effective way to make whatever those problems are, disappear. So, the question remains, if you have something in your life that isn’t working for you, what will it take to motivate you to say, “yes, I want to do something to get this out of my life”? -- Gary
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