I thought I might go a little deeper into what I have been calling unwanted subconscious patterns, or subconscious programs. Or, what I also refer to as consciousness structures. I have been referring to these patterns in several posts, in various ways, hoping to find some way to describe what is going on in a way that someone may read this and say, oh, that’s what that is, and relate to something that shows up in life from time to time, and perhaps feel inspired to take the action to do something about erasing it. If you are just coming to this page for the first time, or have not yet read the first few posts where I have tried to lay some groundwork for what we are talking about here, please take a little time and look through those earlier posts.
As I have mentioned in several posts, one of the main
challenges I have faced over the years, of trying to figure out how to share
this work with people, has been, how do I explain this in a way people will
“get it” and be inspired to get involved in using the approach. I don’t seem to be so good at marketing,
certainly not at sales. What I am good at, is understanding and clearing
unwanted “stuff.” But not so much at
motivating people to do so. One of the ideas behind doing this facebook page
was to just talk about how this stuff works, as best I can, without getting
bogged down in figuring out how to “teach” what needs to be understood, in
order to understand what it can
provide, Or, trying to figure out
marketing materials. So, I’ll just keep
trying to discuss what’s going on under the surface of the consciousness, and
maybe someone will take an interest.
With that said, let’s dig into these unwanted patterns a
little bit. As I have said before, what
I call unwanted patterns, have been called many different things over the
years, and been given many labels, and described many ways. So, I am trying to say that whatever they
have been called, in all the various forms, regardless of what they may look
like, or whatever form they may take, it is fundamentally one phenomenon that
functions in a certain way, that can be addressed and eliminated with this
approach that I talk about. But, another
point I am trying to make in this discussion is that these patterns are often
not noticed as being “patterns,” they are often something that just seems like
the way life is. Since they are formed at an early age, and have been a
fundamental part of life, it is all that has ever been known, and is accepted
as a normal part of life. Somewhat like
the old saying of looking at life through colored glasses, it is all we have
ever known, and it is part of our interpretation, or paradigm of life.
So, let’s just start with listing some of the more common
conditions that we can say are the result of underlying subconscious programs.
(in no particular order) Let’s see ..
anxiety, depression, anger/rage, phobias/fears, triggers/buttons getting
pushed, reactions/over-reactive, irrational behaviors, obsessive and compulsive
behaviors, grandiosity, poor self-esteem, self-loathing, insecurities, control
issues, people pleasing, addictions (any form; consumption or behavior) DRAMA,
procrastination, avoidance/resistance, co-dependency, dysfunctional behavior,
cognitive dissonance, emotional or
mental trauma; childhood or otherwise ,
abandonment issues, feeling unaccepted, feeling unloved, attracting
unhealthy relationships, self-sabotage, self-defeating behavior, fear of
failure, fear of success, seeking happiness through materialism, all forms of “ism’s,” fear of commitment,
need of commitment, need of acceptance, need to impress, being emotionally
unavailable, being emotionally disconnected, wounded inner child, need to
control, internal self criticism or judgement, lack of self-confidence,
generally anything labeled ego, anything labeled shadow self, anything
involving recurring patterns or circumstances, victim mentality, feeling not worthy, feeling
of don’t deserve, feeling of can’t have, feeling of universe is against me,
feeling of life is hard, feeling of life’s not fair, unhealthy or dysfunctional
family dynamics, recurring conditions of lack or scarcity, trust issues or
distrust, anything called a coping mechanism, anything called a survival
mechanism, anything that is self-destructive, being pompous, pious, or
arrogant, attachments to the way things are “supposed” to be, attachments to
“good, bad, right, wrong,” reactive to
other people’s actions or behavior, being judgmental of others, need for things to be done certain way, or
arranged a certain way, .. well, this is just a basic list of some of
the more common forms of patterns that have names we recognize. The thing is, each person is unique, and each
subconscious program is unique to a person, and they can have infinite
varieties of shapes and forms.
Some patterns will be more about the emotions. And will be
like an old tape recording of the emotions that were experienced when the tape
was recorded, and will playback at various times when the tape gets triggered,
and those same emotions will be experienced each time the tape plays, just like
the original experience, over and over.
Some patterns will be more about thought patterns and
perceptions, and may have behavior patterns that are associated with them. They
might be about reactions to circumstances or people, like, “every time I’m
around such and such person, I get mad.” Or, every time we go to the family
gathering, something happens, and there is a reaction. Or, maybe, whenever we are around certain
kinds of people, there is a reaction, or get in an argument, or think they
don’t treat us right, or think they don’t like us, or respect us, or whatever
that may be. Or, maybe we insist on
things being done a certain way, or maybe, we have a particular action or
behavior that we tend to repeat over and over.
There was a tv show years ago called “Monk” that was an example of obsessive
behavior patterns, albeit a bit extreme.
As a simplistic example of these type of reactive, or
behavior patterns might be; “every time I see a red plaid shirt, I get
mad.” Then of course, everywhere I look
I see red plaid shirts. Somewhat like
the proverbial waving a red flag at the bull.
Now, here’s the interesting part,
because I have a subconscious program where I react to red plaid shirts, the
universe provides me with opportunities to see red plaid shirts, to provide the
circumstances for that program to be fulfilled.
And, the universe will continue to provide opportunities for that
program to play, from time to time, (hence the term “recurring”) as long as that program remains active in
the subconscious. Now, let that sink in.
But, on the other side of that coin, is
the common tendency is to get mad at the people wearing red plaid shirts for “pushing
our triggers.” Go figure.
Now let’s look at another simplified example. Let’s suppose
there is a young child, maybe three years or so, and is in the kitchen. This
child has seen mom doing things at the stove, and the child is curious, and for
this example, let’s say the burner is on, and the child reaches up to the
stove, and puts their hand on the burner.
Of course, the child’s hand gets burned. But, we don’t want to deal with
any trauma or child abuse issues, with this particular example, so, we’ll just
say the hand gets burned, but not any serious injury occurs. So, for the sake of the example, let’s say
the child then says, “ I’m never gonna do that again, stoves are bad.” And life goes on.
However, as the child grows up and becomes an adult. This
person becomes someone who doesn’t cook. In fact they never use the stove. And,
it doesn’t occur to this person like there is anything unusual about not using
the stove, they just prefer to get food some other way ..
lots of carryout.
This person may go through life and never notice anything
unusual about not using the stove. Or, at some point they may be confronted
with circumstances where using the stove may be necessary. Then perhaps they
may encounter avoidance or resistance, and find that they don’t like the stove,
or even find they can’t use the stove. They may actually reach a point of
realizing they have a phobia about the stove. What to do then? Well, the solution is to address the
subconscious program, to erase the program that is causing the problematic
pattern, and that resistance about the stove will disappear.
If we take a closer look at what is happening in this
example, we may be able to relate this to many other scenarios in life. In the sample scenario, the child had an
experience, something happened and the child had a reaction of some kind. Then,
the child made a decision in response to the event, he decided, “I’m never
gonna do that again. Stove’s are bad.”
Which would seem like a reasonable reaction.
However, that decision is recorded by the subconscious, and
becomes instructions that the subconscious must follow. So, the subconscious
creates conditions to influence the person to avoid having contact with the
stove. This forms what we might think of
as a sub-routine, or program, that the subconscious generates to fulfill the
instructions it was given of "I'll never do that again.” These sub-routines are what are sometimes
called protective mechanisms, or coping mechanisms, or in some cases survival
mechanisms. These coping or survival mechanisms are pretty common, and can have
significant consequences in some cases.
Well, this is getting a bit long. I warned you this was
going to be a bit more involved. But, as I have said before, this is a
complicated thing we’re talking about.
And, there is still an important aspect of these programs that we
haven’t gotten to yet, which really needs a whole chapter in itself. So, we
will just make a quick reference and devote another discussion in more detail,
to the importance of beliefs.
We have spoken of emotions, and we have spoken of the mind
and thought patterns. But in my opinion,
an even more significant influence on the way we experience life is the belief
systems that are formed during the initial configuration process in early
childhood. And, the influence of the experiences that a person has during this
formation period has on the beliefs that are formed, plays a major role in how
life occurs.
As another simplified example scenario, let’s consider a
young child, also, perhaps around three years or so. Let’s say the child is sitting at their
little kiddie table having some cookies and milk. And, let’s suppose, somehow,
something happens, and the milk ends up on the floor. This just became what is for the child, a
traumatic experience, because the child is suddenly confronted with the
problem; “the milk is on the floor.” This
will likely trigger an emotional response. And, then thought patterns may
begin, of, “I’m in trouble now.” “What’s
gonna happen?” “What am I gonna do?”
etc.
Now we build on the scenario, and let’s suppose an adult
walks in, and says something. It could be a wide range of things said. It could
be something simple like “Look what happened.”
Now, the child will be trying to interpret the situation, and will
likely make something up of what they think it means, but, that is a more
involved discussion.
But for now, let’s say the adult had some things to say that
were, shall we say, not supportive, which could range from something pretty
basic like “look what you did, you’re stupid.”
Or, ranging up to a full scale, “shit hit the fan”, kind of scenario by
the adult. Well, the child is in a
position of seeing the adult as; They are supposed to know. In which case the
child may make a choice, or decision, to accept what the adult said, as “What
is true.” The child may accept something
like, “maybe they’re right. Maybe I am Stupid.”
When the child accepts “I’m stupid” as What is True, it
becomes what I call part of the fundamental belief system, and is recorded by
the subconscious, as one of the fundamental conditions of reality. That belief becomes part of the instructions
which the subconscious must follow to create and manifest the conditions of
that person’s experience of life. So, as
the person grows up and has experiences, their life will be the demonstration
of “I’m stupid.” And from there, things
get complicated.
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